Have
you ever talked yourself out of achieving a goal before you even finished the
thought of ever achieving it? Did it
ever start something like this? “I would
really love to one day be a motivational speaker…but that’s dumb because I
don’t have really anything exceptional to share with anyone and why would
anyone have any interest in what I have to say?
I would just look stupid.” And so
it ends there.
As
a life coach and weight-loss counselor, I always find when working with clients
that the first task is to overcome the negative self-image and remove the self
negative talk. Most of our challenges
are actually our own illusion of our own mind.
We recoil due to fear. However,
we confuse real true fear with anxiety, worry and false fear that are based
upon our memory of an undesirable event or incident. We tend to give energy and power to this fear
which takes energy and power away from our desires and wants.
I
am not trying to simplify fear but want to break it down in order for us to
truly understand where it is coming from.
Many people may not be aware of it but fear is constantly ringing in our
ears and weighing on our minds influencing our decisions. Yes, there is the true threat of danger which
your body and mind will automatically take over and protect you at all
costs. But let’s talk about fear in the
way it threatens our self-esteem, the unhealthy fear. We have this fabulous imagination; however,
sometimes it likes to give us worse-case scenarios which we tend to
believe. An example is that you are
looking for a life partner to share your life with but you don’t want to look or portray that you are
desperate so you just stay in your comfortable surroundings at home and eat
junk food all night. Instead of going out socializing or meeting new people, you sit at home unhappy and lonely. Now it looks pretty
clear here that the inaction is leading to some undesirable results. It can even look clear to the person in that
particular situation but fear of rejection and humiliation is very strong
preventing him or her to take that leap.
This is the fear that keeps us stuck and unhappy.
I
encourage you to write down your worse-case scenarios in moving forward with
your goals and pick them apart. Is everything you imagined going endlessly
wrong an accurate prediction? Will you
recover from the perceived trauma? Now
write down what you would do with your life if you did not feel the emotion of
fear. Now yes, there is the healthy fear
but I am talking about the neurotic fear that keeps us down. Remember that the lower your self-esteem, the
easier you can be controlled and this is mostly because of our own thoughts and
self-perceived fears.
My
hope here is to help you realize that you and your false fears can be your
biggest obstacles. Yes, you may be met
with challenges but they are necessary for growth and confidence-building. I had my victories and I had my defeats but
both are just as valuable in my growth and learning. Explore and accept the fact we all have our
doubts, worries and fears but don’t let them take charge of your life. Do not kneel or bow to your false fears and
let it take away the chance to a better life.
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